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By Victoria, Jul 14 2020 07:58PM

Well, I don’t think we will forget 2020 in a hurry. If you are reading this, it’s likely you have come to the website for some support in relation to your child/ren. Firstly, take some time just to think about the extra-ordinary circumstances we have all been in, how many extra stresses Covid-19 has brought into our awareness, some of which we are already used to, but nevertheless managing a pandemic and helping children through it at the same time is not like anything else we have encountered before and you have done so well just to get through it, whatever that looks like.


Take time now, just to be amazed that you are getting your family through it, however hard it has been, however arduous these months have been, despite the emotions that are running high, you are managing in your own way, like we all are and that’s pretty epic.


Try your best to turn away from what you think others may or may not be managing with their children. Try to see that your child is managing in their own way and this is good enough. We truly never know what other people are really feeling and thinking, those that look like they are coping very well may actually be the ones needing the most support.


Now take time to know it’s going to be okay. This crazy time will pass, children will go back to school and our amazing education system will enable them to catch up. Do you know how much a child’s brain develops through cosy times with loved ones? Bonding and simple pleasures at home provide the basis for synaptic connections in the prefrontal cortex of the brain, so whilst you may feel all has been lost and wasted this term, in fact the very opposite is taking place, your child’s brain will be in a good place to take on new information, provided they are having (mostly!) relaxing, fun and playful interactions at home, therefore if there are heightened emotions, try to keep things as calm as possible, even if this means making some changes/overlooking some of the rules that you may not usually do. Your child is having time to live, to just ‘be’ and make the most of the world, as was the case generations ago and they survived pretty well through other tough times.


Try to feel accomplishment in what you have gotten through, because I think we can all agree that surviving a pandemic is a significant life achievement. Like any major crisis or life event, we may come out looking like we’ve seen better days, but that’s because we have!


If the anxiety about September is looming, try to focus on the now. What can you do for yourself to put that anxiety away until the start of term, how can you help your child to do this? Mindfulness is a really worthwhile practice and making the most of the present can help leave the anxious times until the moment when they actually happen (and they may not even be as bad as we expected).


You might try a mindfulness walk with your child/ren, what five things can they see? What four things can they hear? What three things can they smell? What two things can they feel? What one thing can they taste?


It might help to create a journal to document the summer break, how they are feeling or what they are grateful for. Other mindful activities are below:-


Mindfulness activities for children:-

https://biglifejournal-uk.co.uk/blogs/blog/5-fun-mindfulness-activities-children-breathing-exercises



Summer activities to do at home:-

https://www.happinessishomemade.net/quick-easy-kids-crafts-anyone-can-make/


https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/home/craft-ideas/how-to/g1389/diy-kids-activities/


https://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifestyle/30-fun-things-home.html


I am a child psychotherapist (UKCP Registered); a counsellor; arts and play therapist, covering Sussex, Surrey and Hampshire. You can contact me here.



By Victoria, Jul 14 2020 07:55PM

Thank you for all that our schools have done over this year, it has been amazing to go back into schools this term and see all that you have put into place to help keep schools a safe and happy sanctuary for children. I know you have all worked so hard in these far from ordinary times, thank you.


I am a child psychotherapist (UKCP Registered); a counsellor; arts and play therapist, covering Sussex, Surrey and Hampshire. You can contact me here.





By Victoria, May 21 2020 12:40PM

This week is Mental Health Awareness week and now more than ever it’s essential we look after our mental health. The unprecedented challenges we have faced lately have perhaps forced us into survival mode, where we focus on the basics, the essentials day-to-day and can easily overlook what is going on at a deeper level. Seeing the world suffer the Covid-19 Pandemic is both shocking and frightening, it may take time for us all to fully come to terms with what has happened and what it represents.


Keep checking with yourself what is it that you need? What would help you the most? If that isn’t available to you, what steps can you take that might help in a different way? The focus on self-care means that the care for others will be able to come more readily, perhaps this is particularly important for parents who have seen their role of parenting challenged by becoming a teacher overnight and having to manage this expectation as well as their own anxieties.


What three nice things can you do for yourself today?


I am a child psychotherapist (UKCP Registered); a counsellor; arts and play therapist, covering Sussex, Surrey and Hampshire. You can contact me here.



By Victoria, Apr 5 2020 09:27AM

Donate towards wellbeing support and therapy for our NHS Staff


In addition to clapping in thanks to our National Health Service tonight, you can also donate here over the coming weeks and months to help towards providing NHS Staff with wellbeing support, such as CBT therapists; Psychotherapists; Mindfulness teachers; Meditation experts; Breath-work experts; Homeopaths; Immunologists; Nutrition coaches; Hypnotherapists and Healers.


https://www.dutytocare.info/

By Victoria, Apr 5 2020 09:22AM

In these unprecedented times I am offering an online, remote psychotherapy service for children, adolescents and support for parents and professionals. Through video calling or the telephone I am here to provide support through the anxiety and uncertainty. It can be helpful for young people to talk through their worries and find solutions to help them manage, particularly whilst their routine has significantly changed and they are no longer having the same regular contact with their friends and peers, sport and leisure time has been reduced and the return to school remains undecided.

Young people are experiencing high levels of concern for their loved ones, school work and future, remote therapy (telephone, Zoom, Skype, FaceTime, WhatsApp) can be a helpful way for them to work through these issues, this may then lead to the option of face-to-face sessions in the future. I specialise in working with young people who are suffering from trauma, anxiety, depressive symptoms and behavioural difficulties.


To discuss this further, please get in touch either by email: [email protected] or by telephone: 07867 433 558.


I am a child psychotherapist (UKCP Registered); a counsellor; arts and play therapist, covering Sussex, Surrey and Hampshire. You can contact me here.



By Victoria, Mar 22 2020 09:18PM

This is a very challenging time for all and we need to help children manage without their daily life without school as best as possible. There are some really useful resources available such as Kids Activities this BBC article also explains more about the need for routine, exercise, fresh air and how to manage exam fears.


Please note that during this time I will be operating a remote therapy service in addition to the usual service I offer, so that children and young people can still have access to therapy during this difficult time. This is particularly important due to raised levels of anxiety and uncertainty.


If you are an adult who is concerned about your child I am offering telephone sessions as a means of support.


To discuss this further, please get in touch either by email: [email protected] or by telephone: 07867 433 558.


I am a child psychotherapist (UKCP Registered); a counsellor; arts and play therapist, covering Sussex, Surrey and Hampshire. You can contact me here.



By Victoria, Mar 22 2020 09:15PM

I hope you are keeping safe and well, if you are looking for ways to explain the Coronavirus to children, this information may be useful:-


https://www.livescience.com/coronavirus-kids-guide.html


Please make sure you read it first yourself and check that you feel that it will be helpful and that it will not increase levels of alarm and distress.


Please note that during this time I will be operating a remote therapy service in addition to the usual service I offer, so that children and young people can still have access to therapy during this difficult time. This is particularly important due to raised levels of anxiety and uncertainty.


If you are an adult who is concerned about your child I am offering telephone sessions as a means of support.


To discuss this further, please get in touch either by email: [email protected] or by telephone: 07867 433 558.


I am a child psychotherapist (UKCP Registered); a counsellor; arts and play therapist, covering Sussex, Surrey and Hampshire. You can contact me here.



By Victoria, Mar 22 2020 09:12PM

Helping children with managing the uncertainty of what is going on is really important. Unfortunately in life there are many things that are uncertain and as humans we usually look for patterns, predictable experiences and concrete answers. Without these we can all feel lost and this can be especially overwhelming for children.


We can talk to children in helpful ways about this by explaining that it’s important to share the worry of the uncertainty and we can help to emotionally hold this for children so they don’t have to manage it alone.


It may be useful to direct their thoughts into positive times ahead, using art and creativity they may wish to make a drawing, list, mood board, Pintrest etc of things they are looking forward to. This may help to create a focus and sooth some of the uncertainty.


Please note that during this time I will be operating a remote therapy service in addition to the usual service I offer, so that children and young people can still have access to therapy during this difficult time. This is particularly important due to raised levels of anxiety and uncertainty.


If you are an adult who is concerned about your child I am offering telephone sessions as a means of support.


To discuss this further, please get in touch either by email: [email protected] or by telephone: 07867 433 558.


I am a child psychotherapist (UKCP Registered); a counsellor; arts and play therapist, covering Sussex, Surrey and Hampshire. You can contact me here.



By Victoria, Mar 19 2020 04:17PM

In light of the Coronavirus disease (COVID-19) I will be operating a remote therapy service so that children and young people can still have access to therapy during this difficult time. This is particularly important due to raised levels of anxiety and uncertainty.


If you are an adult who is concerned about your child I am offering telephone sessions as a means of support.


To discuss this further, please get in touch either by email: [email protected] or by telephone: 07867 433 558.




By Victoria, Feb 12 2020 09:23PM

Good luck to Amelia Field, a year 11 student at Midhurst Rother College, who together with William Chetwynd-Stapylton and a group of young people will be running, walking or cycling 5km every day in February (alongside preparing for their GCSE’s!).


This is to raise money for Young Minds Trust, a charity supporting the mental health and wellbeing of our young people. To donate please see here. Find out more


If you are a young person reading this and would like to know more about the support available to you through Young Minds.


I am a child psychotherapist (UKCP Registered); a counsellor; arts and play therapist, covering Sussex, Surrey and Hampshire. You can contact me here.



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