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By Victoria, Oct 8 2018 09:23PM

The NSPCC has been highlighting the issue of loneliness in young people. Childline has reported increased calls of this nature and it is important that we understand how significant long-term loneliness can be in children (and all generations). Unfortunately loneliness often impacts our behaviour by increasing our feelings of withdrawal and reducing our confidence to socialise, therefore providing a vicious cycle that can be difficult to change. Loneliness can happen at any time, even if someone is very busy and surrounded by people. It can happen at any time of year, not just during the winter. Talking to your child about their feelings, engaging with them in activities that they have chosen (even if this doesn’t involve socialising) and accompanying them to social events (if they wish) will be be really helpful in raising their confidence and easing their feelings of being alone.


If you are a child reading this and wish to speak to a kind person about your feelings, but you are not sure who, then you can call 0800 1111 or go to the Childline website.


For older teenagers and adults, the Samaritans are also a helpful point of contact during periods of loneliness, you can call them on 116 123 or go to the Samaritans website


I am a child and adolescent psychotherapist (UKCP Registered); a counsellor; arts and play therapist based in Arundel, covering Sussex, Surrey and Hampshire. You can contact me here.



By Victoria, Jun 25 2018 10:22PM


What is GDPR?


General Data Protection Regulation ‘GDPR’ came into effect across the European Union (EU) on May 25, 2018.

GDPR is a legal framework that sets out guidelines for the collection and processing of personal information of individuals within the EU.


How Does this Impact on Psychotherapy with Vicky in Private Practice?


Any therapy undertaken by Vicky will remain strictly confidential. If you wish to use Vicky’s therapy service she will request your contact information and may take confidential notes as necessary and as per the ethical standards of the United Kingdom Council of Psychotherapy (‘UKCP’) to which Vicky is registered. These notes may be retained for a period of time after the therapy ends.

In terms of GDPR this is referred to as 'processing personal data’, this data remains completely confidential, as it always has done, unless:-


1. There is a child protection concern.


2. The child is at serious risk to themselves, or others.


3. Victoria Clancy Psychotherapy is asked to do so by a court of law.


4. Victoria Clancy Psychotherapy may need to sensitively share a general overview of the therapy with other agencies if they are involved with the young person or have made the referral for Psychotherapy, such as in the context of Schools or Children’s Social Care, for example.


5. Vicky is a member of the UKCP and is ethically required to attend professional supervision for case discussion.


As before, Vicky will be able to provide a general overview of the therapy to the parent/s or carer/s when helpful for the client to do so.



Who is the Data Controller for Victoria Clancy Psychotherapy?


Under the new guidelines, Vicky is the Data Controller and Data Processor for Victoria Clancy Psychotherapy.


In accordance with this, Vicky is registered with the Information Commissioner’s Office (‘ICO’). The ICO is the UK’s independent authority set up to uphold information rights and privacy in the public interest. Vicky’s membership number for the ICO is: ZA347065.


As before, you or your child/other family members have the rights to withdraw consent at any point of the therapy, complaints regarding data processing need to be made to the ICO, which is a separate complaints system to the UKCP.


Victoria Clancy Psychotherapy has a Privacy Statement that you can request to see at any time.


How Does this Impact on Psychotherapy with Vicky in School-Based Practice or Therapy in Other Settings?


If Vicky sees your child through another arrangement, such as in a School or other setting, the statements above will stand, however there may be other areas of the GDPR that will apply, such as the possible sharing of some data with other professionals, Vicky will explain this to you prior to the commencement of therapy.


If you wish to discuss any of the above in more detail, please feel free to contact Vicky.



By Victoria, Jun 18 2018 12:54PM

Lucy Dimbylow has written for The Metro with some ideas about what not to say to young people who are struggling with their mental health. Lucy has some ideas on what would work better, which include taking an empathic stance together with naming what is going on and offering yourself as a container for your child's distress.


Some of the responses Lucy critiques are those that are made by a parent who probably cares very much, but is finding it hard to know how to attune to their child’s worries (possibly because of their own stress/fears) and is likely doing the best that they can, even if it isn’t having the desired impact. I believe we all do our best within our families and in addition to working directly with young people, I offer non-judemental, supportive parenting consultations where we can talk through your child’s difficulties and think about ways you can help them. I work in private practice and in schools in and around Sussex.


I am a child and adolescent psychotherapist (UKCP Registered); a counsellor; arts and play therapist based in Arundel, covering Sussex, Surrey and Hampshire. You can contact me here.



By Victoria, Feb 10 2018 11:24AM

This week it is Children’s Mental Health Week, the focus this year is on helping children to be themselves and to celebrate who they are.


The Duchess of Cambridge, who is Patron of Place2Be is keen to highlight the importance of mental health - particularly for younger generations. This week she has highlighted the importance of helping children reach their potential through positive mental health, to find out more please click here.


I am a child and adolescent psychotherapist (UKCP Registered); a counsellor; arts and play therapist based in Chichester, covering West and East Sussex, Surrey and Hampshire. You can contact me here.



By Victoria, Dec 16 2017 01:23PM

When I took my watch to Timpson’s to get it fixed I was quite surprised to find a free book on Attachment Theory being offered in the shop. When I enquired about this I learnt that the owner, John Timpson has adopted himself and is the author of the book on Attachment. If you are not able to get to Timpson’s for a free copy you can purchase one online for £2.00.


I am a child and adolescent psychotherapist (UKCP Registered); a counsellor; arts and play therapist based in Chichester, covering West and East Sussex, Surrey and Hampshire. You can contact me here.

By Victoria, Dec 16 2017 01:21PM

If you are looking at this website over Christmas the chances are things may be feeling really tough right now. If you are a young person you can call 0800 1111 and speak to someone in confidence about what is troubling you (remember to call ‘999’ if you or someone else is in danger).


I’ve written previously about what to do if you are in crisis over Christmas, please click this link


Our brains are wired to react to stress by lashing out verbally or physically, going into ‘freeze mode' or by running away. It might help to take some time out for yourself to focus on your own needs (imagine being a really kind parent to yourself, what would that kind parent do? Put a favourite film on? Run a bath? Take you for Pizza? Go to the beach?) or turn to friends who you know you will feel comfortable with. It won’t solve the problem, but it will help to re-engage your brain so you can think clearer about how to work something through.


I am a child and adolescent psychotherapist (UKCP Registered); a counsellor; arts and play therapist based in Chichester, covering West and East Sussex, Surrey and Hampshire. You can contact me here.

By Victoria, Dec 7 2017 09:34PM

Bruce Perry's lecture on the importance of human relationships for healthy brain development (and therefore a healthy society) forms part of the key principles in the way I work. Particularly how change occurs through empathy.


I find it particularly interesting that children are currently only receiving around one twentieth of the relational interactions that would have occurred during hunter gatherer times. As Dr Perry makes clear, this is having a huge impact on society increasing self-absorbed traits and relational poverty (it will get worse?).


Our brains are the “organ of society” thus it is essential that we look after our mental health and particularly the mental health of our young.


To find out more, watch the lecture or you may wish to read Dr Perry’s book ‘Born For Love: Why Empathy is Essential - And Endangered.


If you are interested in finding out more about how to increase empathy for yourself or someone else or wish to discuss any of the themes raised by Bruce Perry please feel free to contact me.


I am a child and adolescent psychotherapist (UKCP Registered); a counsellor; arts and play therapist based in Chichester, covering West and East Sussex, Surrey and Hampshire. You can contact me here.

By Victoria, Jul 21 2017 07:51AM

I recently attended a Workshop on Eating Disorders which was run by Julia Buckroyd a leading expert on Disordered Eating.


Julia has written a couple of interesting and insightful books on the subject:-


Understanding Your Eating: How To Eat And Not Worry About It: Book details.


Psychological Responses to Eating Disorders and Obesity: Recent and Innovative Work: Book Details


You can find out more about Julia and her approach on her website.


I am a child and adolescent psychotherapist (UKCP Registered); a counsellor; arts and play therapist based in Chichester, covering West and East Sussex, Surrey and Hampshire. You can contact me here.



By Victoria, May 15 2017 09:08PM

I am absolutely delighted that my friend and colleague Anita M. Hughes has released another book, this time focusing on The Friendly Group - a very special group for children on the autistic spectrum. I was fortunate enough to work alongside Anita prior to training as a Psychotherapist and I learnt so much about the benefits of warmth and kindness from Anita (see my Blog "Biography - A Bit More About My Route to Psychotherapy”)


Anita’s book 'Making Friends: How the Friendly Group Supports Children and Young People on the Autism Spectrum: Stories of Connection and Hope is available on Amazon




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