Why are we so disconnected?

It seems that we are forever in the place of ‘What comes next?’, ‘What updates are on my phone?’, ‘Who do I need to message later?’. 

It can be difficult in to take things one step at a time, to focus inwards and just breathe, notice and be in the moment.  Janina Fisher, clinical psychologist and trauma specialist suggests that we need moments to notice and be in full awareness of ourselves, otherwise we are just reacting automatically to the world and not fully living.

Those of us who have had traumatic situations in our past may be even more inclined to race onto the next thing, then the next, as we are more inclined to distract ourselves, especially if aspects of daily life can be re-triggering, whether we are aware of this or not.

Janina suggests that we try to spend time doing small activities which help restore us, such as a walk in nature, time just sitting with a cup of tea, a breathing exercise or doing something creative.  Janina explains that these aren’t going to bring us huge changes and suddenly make life different; they may only help us by about ’10 %’, but these ’10% solutions’ can add up to make a more meaningful, calming existence.

Ed Halliwell who runs brilliant Mindfulness courses proposes that we need to put nurturing activities in before we actually need the nurture.  These activities sustain our lives and stop us from running out of the precious life-fuel we all need to live in a hectic world.

If this sounds interesting to you, please feel free to get in touch to explore how you can make positive changes for yourself.

Please contact me to find out more; I am a Psychotherapist (UKCP Registered); Counsellor (MNCPS, Acc.); Arts and Play therapist, covering Sussex, Surrey and Hampshire. You can contact me here.